Molweni(hello in Xhosa) my gorgeous readers! I hope you are having a blessed Tuesday morning. I thought I would give you tips on how to write your wedding vows. Please bear in mind I’m no expert. It is simply my job as a wedding planner/ blogger to give out information and tips that will make the planning process a little bit easier.
Writing your own vows is a special and romantic way of telling each other why you want to get married and adds a unique personal element to your wedding.
I remember when we got married we were so preoccupied with the other aspects of planning that we simply didn’t make time to write our own wedding vows; so we ended up going the traditional route; (ironic I know since I’m writing a post on how to write your wedding vows but bear with me it gets better) To my delight the Pastor handed us the mic and said say something to each other. The good thing was that the mic was off (phew!)and nobody could hear what we said to each other which was great because we are both quite shy.
The vows were something like this, “Ika today I’m a blessed man, I cannot promise you the sky, moon, heaven, earth or everything in between but I can promise you that I will love you with all my heart, my lungs, mind, soul, spirit and everything within me. Today I make this declaration that you are my queen forever and it’s an honor to be called your husband.” He did well didn’t he and yes I still well up every-time I think about that day. Here are a few tips to think about when writing your vows:
Ask the Registrar Pastor or Minister: if writing your own vows is permitted, some denominations will not allow you to write your own vows; they require that the statutory words must be used in order to make your marriage legally binding
Write from the heart: Write how you feel. It is a good idea to find a quiet place anywhere; where you can relax and think about how your fiance makes you feel and what you would do for them. If you don’t know where to start these questions will give you a starting point:
How did you and your partner meet?
When did you know you were in love?
How has your relationship helped you grow as a person?
What are the things you love about your partner?
Do you have a favorite song?
When you think of your future as husband and wife, what does it look like?
Be Yourself: It is so much easier to copy or say what someone else said but it is more meaningful if you say what you feel. Its best to be yourself . Only make promises that you know you can keep; there is nothing more disappointing than unkept promises.
Keep it short: Remember its vows not a sermon so keep it short and simple. I would suggest that you set a word count cap of about 150 words.
Practice: Sometimes excitement or nerves can make you say silly things or even something that you didn’t plan on saying, so practice, practice and practice. If you feel that you might mess up because of nervous write your vows and read them out.
photo credits: Michael Tree
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