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5 Things To Consider When Sorting Out Your Guest List

Guest List

Hey Precious! I hope you had a wonderful Easter weekend. Mine’s been okay although I was disappointed we didn’t make it into London for church. I cannot complain though, I enjoyed the long weekend. I miss London so much I could scream. But it’s alright, all is not lost, we got to join our church via online stream(thank God for the internet).

Okay enough about me and my church things, lets talk about the dreaded guest list shall we. To be honest, guest lists are just a pain. Yes I said it. Who wants to be spending countless hours trying to figure out who to invite and where to seat them. I mean your a bride, I’m sure you have gazillion other things to worry about. The only thing you should be worried about is prettifying yourself.  So to make things a little easier, I’ve come up with five suggestion which I strongly think you should consider. So here it goes:

Family First

I often hear people say it’s your wedding day you can do what you like and to some degree I agree but you have to remember a wedding is not only about you two. It’s about two families coming together. Remember the wedding will only last for a day and friends come and go but family is forever.

Be supportive

Planning your guest list can cause arguments and leave you miserable. Please have each others back on this one. It would be a good idea to allocate the number of guests for each family especially if both sets of parents are contributing. For example if your total number of guests is 300 you can allocate 100 guests for each family and then you are left with 100 between you.

Work colleagues

If you don’t have room to invite your co-workers don’t feel bad, approach them individually and politely. Explain to each person that you are only having an intimate ceremony with just close friends and family.


If you don’t want children at your wedding please send out invitations to parents who have children early, they will appreciate the early notice. You can simply send a note with your invitation that says “for your planning purposes, this is an adult-only ceremony and reception”.


If you plan to announce your engagement on social media bear in mind that your friends and followers will assume they are invited. It’s a good idea to inform them from the beginning that you are having an intimate ceremony just for family and close friends. By being clear from the start you won’t be hurting anyone’s feelings if they don’t get invited.

I understand that this post will not be to everyone’s taste, I would love to hear your comments and suggestions on the box below.

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Hi! I'm Ika. Thank you for visiting Bontle Bride, a gorgeous space where I share exquisite weddings with a flava of culture.

(6) Comments

  1. great tips!! but when it comes to children which other way can they be monitored instead of being excluded from the wedding,because i have seen families and friends actually not coming because of excluding their kids.please advice

    1. Ika says:

      Hi Thembi, great question.
      I think when it comes to children, things can get a little tricky. If you’re referring to a venue wedding, then why not ask the venue if there’s a space that can be allocated to them. You can have board games, colouring papers and crayons and anything fun that’ll keep them busy and yet entertained. There should also be an adult to monitor the children, under no circumstances should they be left alone.

      We should also remember children will be children. They play, that’s what they do.

  2. These are all really thoughtful and considerate!

    1. Ika says:

      Thanks for commenting Tamika, your blog is awesome. Blessings

  3. Great tips!! Especially about being supportive, I’m sure the wedding list can cause alot of drama.

    1. Ika says:

      Thanks for taking time to comment Danielle. Blessings

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