It’s not often a Swati Bride gets in touch for a feature. Therefore, you can only imagine my excitement when Nolwazi first tagged me on Instagram. It felt as if I had won the lottery. For those of you that are photography addicts please pardon me on this one. From her writing, one can tell Nolwazi is such a genuine person and it would have been a travesty for me to refuse this feature based on photography alone. Plus I’ve never featured a Swati Bride before so this one had to make it to the pages of Bontle Bride.
“Our wedding was a cultural event. We incorporated modern style into our traditional Swati event (mhlambiso). When the makoti first comes to her in-laws, by Swati tradition she should be dressed in ‘imvunulo’ which is the yellow top fabric(lihiya),the black skirt (sidvwaba) and the hat (siqholo).”
“We met back in 2007, I was best friends with his youngest sister. He asked his sister (my then best friend )for my phone number and mxit handle (if I can call it that 😂), his sister then asked me if I was ok with her giving her brother my contact details. I told her I had no problem. When he called our calls would go on for hours on end, as would our mxit chats. We started dating then, our relationship was more of a cyber relationship than anything else because throughout the year of 2007 we only met once. In 2008 he was a 19-year-old, 2nd-year student at the University of Pretoria and I was in grade 9, still keeping in touch, our conversations were the best lullabies 😍.
We got along like a house on fire.🔥 As time went by, the phone calls started getting shorter and shorter and eventually stopped. I figured he had moved on and apparently he felt the same way about me. Years passed and in the year 2013, I moved to Pretoria, where he was based to start my training at Transnet School of Engineering. He found out that I was in Pretoria and invited me for dinner as old friends, that evening, one thing lead to another before we knew it we were back in each other’s lives. We both broke up with our then partners to be with each other and the rest is history.”
“I come from a very conservative family after I had told them about my relationship with Ken. They made it clear that I shouldn’t move in or fall pregnant by him. This meant that we’d often see each other on weekends and I’d often do all the house chores over my weekend visits. He told me that he really enjoys having me around. He loved it actually and can’t stay another year alone. He then asked me to tell my family that he will send his uncles for lobola negotiations in 2016 December. As for the western proposal, Hunny!I’m still waiting for that one 💁🏾💍”
BONTLE BRIDE: lol same here lovely. I’m sure there’s a whole lot of us still waiting for the bended knee proposal, oh well …
“Choosing my dress was a mission and a half. I literally sent my designer quite a number of designs, changing my mind every morning. She took the 2 dresses I liked most and incorporate each of their details into one dress so after taking my measurements, she told me not to change my mind again. I was so worried and sceptical since I ultimately had not chosen a winning dress, but my designer just blew me away when I went for fittings🤗 I loved what she had for me.”Swati Bride
“Ken and I went on about the wedding as if it was not gonna be that expensive since it was not really your conventional wedding. It was what they call ‘Mhlambiso’ in siSwati, where after the groom is done giving lobola, the bride’s family bring gifts for the groom’s family as a sign of gratitude and joining of the two families. We wanted to modernize this ceremony a tad bit and that came at a price.
However, the reality of things is that weddings are expensive and this is not much spoken about. Things got so stressful. We lost a caterer and had to get one quick a couple of weeks before the event. On the day, my decorator forgot one carpet, but at the end of it all everything worked out beautifully. A lot of damage control had to be done and it turned out to be a successful event.”
“I wouldn’t change anything about our day, all our loved ones, friends and family were there to support us. We were both overjoyed, it even felt like a proper white wedding.We would not change a thing about that day.”
“When my aunt (my mom’s sister) spoke words of encouragement to us. She reminded me of my late mother.
Bontle bride: sorry sisi, may your mother rest in God’s perfect peace.”
I’m looking forward to happiness, love, spending the rest of my life with the one person I can’t go a day without. Being the best makoti to my new parents, starting a family and seeking Christ with my partner.