Good morning my loves. I have this fabulous Joburg wedding to share with you today but before I do let me tell you a little secret. I feel like I’ve been bitten by an inspirational bee these days. I have so many ideas in my mind and will soon reveal all. If you are getting married in the next couple of months stay tuned. You will love what I have up my sleeve for you.
I’m always amazed by how well connected the world has become. One click and you could be talking to someone in America or Lesotho who knows maybe even someone just next door. Which brings me today’s fabulous Joburg wedding. These love birds met on mixt. It only too one chat and the rest sorted itself out. Here’s their story Enjoy
How did he propose?
Because, he’s very dramatic, he started a fight with me 2 days before he decided to propose. He had all his friends involved in the planning (I mean even the fight) had them calling me to tell that he wasn’t okay and where I was, he wanted to apologize. I told them I was at work that morning. He tried calling me and I ignored the call (being dramatic too) so he shows up at work. I was quite surprised. He then said he needed to rush off to work. He just came to see me and he bought earrings that I need to try on to see if they fit.
I found that weird “who tries on earrings” he gave me the box and it still didn’t click to me that it might be a ring. So as I opened the box he went down on his knees and asked if I would marry him in front of everyone at work. I laughed at him because I thought it was a joke. I got the day off at work and we went to breakfast 😁👏🏾
Did he pay lobola, if so can you tell us about the whole process?
Yes, he did. It went smoothly everyone was on time. Things started changed when my uncles decided to change the price that was agreed upon with my family. They thought the price was crazy they wanted to go back home. I’m freaking out here he keeps calling me. So, in the end, they paid the first half of the lobola. According to our traditional, you don’t put down the full amount at once. They came again on a different day to finish. That’s when we had the buying of blankets and I had to wear one too since his Sotho.
We had the cutting of goats to symbolize the two families’s coming together. We had the older aunts and his mother sit down with me, telling how to carry myself as a wife in the family, etc. Then we had a small traditional wedding on the day.
How did you find the planning process?
It was a bit difficult because we were planning the wedding while we stayed in Cape Town and everything was happening in Johannesburg. So I couldn’t do half of the things being this side. We had to travel a lot to that side and a weekend wasn’t enough to do everything. Luckily I had my two sisters who were very helpful. I was a clueless bride. I knew what I wanted, however, I forgot the small things, things like my flower bouquet never crossed my mind and that’s where my sisters came in. Both of them being married made the process a lot easier in some cases.
I was blessed to have found a venue that did everything for us so we didn’t have to stress over everything else that’s the venue was offering.
Was the community involved in helping with the wedding? If you please tell us more…
No, not at all. We just had both of our families play the part and they did help us greatly. My mom was kind enough to give money from the lobola that was paid to her. Which a lot of parents don’t do. That was a great blessing, an unexpected one.
Marriage is such a big deal, at what point did you know you were ready?
I can’t really say at what point however to me it was expected. I’ve always said I will date with a purpose. I never dated when I was younger, started dating when I was 18 and I was blessed enough to get someone who had the same vision. So then maybe I could say we knew we were ready in our 3rd year of dating. We started reading a book called Boy Meets Girl by Joshua Harris. It’s about courtship and dating with a purpose and of cause when we both started working. We’ve always known what we wanted out of the relationship and the end goal was marriage. Bontle Birde: this is such a powerful answer Thato, thank you.
Tell us about your suppliers, how did you find them?. Would you say your suppliers delivered as promised?
We found them at the wedding expo. They had a great deal and the venue supplied us with everything but the wedding cake. The name of the is Colosseum Reale.
Did you learn any lessons through your wedding journey? If so can you tell us of 3 lessons you’ve taken away based on your experience…
- Not everyone is happy for you and that shouldn’t affect the outcome of your day or the planning process.
- If you planned for a certain to attend the wedding or any function you planned. Hold people accountable for their actions. Don’t rsvp and not show especially knowing that each and every head is paid for.
- Some family members won’t show up and it okay.
Gods grace is Sufficient.
What was the favourite part of the wedding?
I think it would have to be the wedding photos. That was pretty fun.
What would you say to couples planning their wedding at the moment?
Plan wisely and get yourself a venue that can offer everything to avoid unnecessary stress and remember it’s about you and your husband. Don’t try to please everyone. In the end, you have to live and have money after the wedding. Then the real stuff starts🙈
Now that you are married, has life changed much? Do you both have the same friends or are you making new ones? If so tell us a little about how you are adjusting?
Life hasn’t changed much for us, I mean we have been together since high school days till today. The only difference is we live together now and I can’t go home when I’m mad at him 😆
We don’t have the same friends however all our friends know each other. We all grew up in the same area. We haven’t made any new friends in Cape Town. All our friends are back home in Johannesburg.