I have this flawless Zulu wedding to share with you today. This is one of my favourite weddings. I love how Thuba followed cultural practises throughout the the wedding. The one highlight from this wedding is when Thuba washes her husband’s feet. Jesus did too. How thoughtful and selfless of Thuba to perform such a humbling ritual. Bontle loves. Enjoy
The Love Story
We met a few years ago at work during internship. Initially we just flirted but he finally asked me out on a date. The rest as they say is history.
We didn’t have a typical proposal. Hubby told me what his intentions were and over the months we prepared by choosing my engagement ring and speaking to my uncles. After “surprising” me with the ring and a formal proposal we had Lobola negotiations. Followed my memulo. A year later we had our membeso. Then our mbondo celebration. Finally after 3 years of being engaged we had uMabo followed by exchanging wedding vows.
A Flawless Zulu Wedding
We are both Zulu. Yes we followed most if not all cultural traditions. It came easily to me as that is how I was raised. My father was very traditional and raised his children to love, respect and cherish our culture. It felt like the correct and natural thing to do.
Theres no Zulu celebration without the community. From days before the celebration neighbors helped out with preparations. The nights before a goat or cow may be slaughtered and followed by song and dance with family and community members. Of course on the day of the event they are with you.
Most memorable moment
I loved the part where I got to fetch my husband with a song and then got to wash his face, hands and feet!
And of course when we exchanged vows and were announced man and wife! That was so surreal.
Thoughts On White Wedding
Western weddings dominate because western culture is a norm we aspire too. We didn’t feel it was necessary for us.
White Wedding Plans
We had our wonderful priest officiate our wedding and marry us. Assuming by white you mean a traditional western wedding with a white gown and throwing garters then, NO!
Stay disciplined and save meticulously and don’t think you can do this alone, the role your family plays is profound. It will be all worth it at the end.
Discuss wedding budget and expectations with your partner!
Stay strong this can be a very challenging period but as long as you stick together you will get through it. As for the budget do your research well and allow room.
Growing older and sharing my life with a man I love, respect and cherish.