This wedding has been highly requested. I was going to save it for the next issue but the number of requests I received to blog it was just way too many and I had to oblige. After all, without you my gorgeous readers, I wouldn’t have a blog nor a magazine. So ENJOY!
How did you meet?
We met through a mutual friend who at the time was dating one of my best friends. They had come to pick us up from a varsity function to take us home and there happened to not have enough space in the car. Being the smallest in size; of the bunch; I opted to sit on this guy’s lap. That’s when I found out that his name was Kabelo; coupled with a detailed intro of how many siblings he had. A fruitful meeting sparked a genuine friendship which we only started dating 3 years later.
How did he propose?
He had just taken up mountain biking and wanted to try a hiking/cycle trail in our neighbourhood. So; in the event of supporting his new hobby; I’d agreed to do a trial run while he cycles. He picked me up late that we decided to hike instead because the sun is scorching at 11 am to do a run. We got to the top of the hill; overlooking the area, and there he was on his knee.
Did he pay lobola; if so tell us about the whole process?
Kabelo had always said that he wouldn’t propose before he sent a letter to my parents; I was never against it; however, I wanted my proposal to be a surprise. He sent one of his friends to drop off the letter to my parents stating his intentions; they all managed to keep it a secret; because he was able to propose two days later without me even suspecting. From that moment my parents consulted with me about his budget; they wanted to work around his budget as they felt the process of lobola should never lead one into debt but to join families together. His delegates came over in November 2018 and the process went by so smoothly that they met again in March the next year to pay the balance.
How did you find the planning process?
Not one bit stressful. I enjoyed planning our wedding. So much so that if given the chance I would do it all over again. I’m such a planner at heart; that I started planning and researching possible suppliers in June 2018; we got married in November 2019. It made it much easier that my husband was very hands-on in the planning and executing and I did everything with my mom and sister. We had weekly wedding debriefs throughout 2019 to make sure we were all happy.
Was the community involved in helping with the wedding?
If friends and family count as a community; then definitely. For instance; we opted to use a lot of our friends as service providers; not for discounts but to help enhance their business and help possibly put them on the market. Décor; Gin Bar; DJ and Sound; musical item; bouquet’s (to name a few) were done by friends’ companies. Bontle Bride: We love to see more start-ups make it in the wedding industry. Thank you for allowing them to showcase their creativity.
Marriage is such a big deal at what point did you know you were ready?
I knew Kabelo was the one; possibly in the first 3 months of us dating. We had been friends for three solid years that our foundation was already there. I knew I was ready within the first year of our relationship. He felt the same way because he proposed a year and 10months in.
What inspired the overall look of your wedding?
I’m catholic and had always dreamed of getting married in a catholic church; and my dear husband made that dream come true for me, firstly. With wanting to get married in a church; it meant some western traditions come into play, but we didn’t want to lose the essence of our African cultures. We wanted a green; a little rustic however modern traditional wedding became the theme for the whole weekend. We had our mahlabiso on Thursday afternoon, and that was a full Sesotho ceremony. On Friday our guests were requested to come dressed in full traditional attire; which meant that they became the tradition they wore, and it transcended beautifully at the church and the reception. Saturday was a traditional Setswana wedding; with a full brass band. We were really happy with the overall outcome.
Did you learn any lessons through your wedding journey?
- Know exactly what you want for your special day, and make it very clear to everyone involved. That will make execution much easier because everyone understands your vision.
- Plan; plan; plan. Plan and be the eager beaver in planning your wedding. Also, in your planning delegate certain things to the people you trust the most. It eases the stress
- Most importantly… Enjoy the journey of planning your wedding, have fun with your partner and with everyone else involved. (you won’t regret making the memories)
What was your favourite part of the wedding?
Seeing my husband looking so dapper, waiting for me in the middle of the aisle to walk to the altar together. That moment was very emotional for me. The other part was just seeing how our union brought happiness to everyone around us.
What would you say at couples planning their weddings at the moment?
Remember that the wedding day is a special day for you and your partner. Make everything about what the two of you want. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. You’ll be surprised who is willing and able to help. Also, keep in mind that it’s important to not get too consumed by the planning, keep the spark by still consciously dating.
Now that you are married; has life changed?
Not too much has changed; maybe just the fact that planning the wedding and all the fun activities around the wedding is no more. But also, being able to save money for things other than the wedding has been fun.
- planner- myself @mamo_motswatswa
- Brides Dress- @bmashilodesign
- Bridesmaid Dresses- @thulawulor
- Hair- @indalonibianubiannaturals
- Make-up- @bk_makeupartist
- Grooms attire: Day [email protected]Raphaelmukendi, Day 2- @tomircreations
- Groomsmen attire- @tomircreations
- Décor- @glamclandecor
- Bouquets- @mnm_flowerranger
- Wedding photographer- @mothusimomolote
- Décor photography- @justandeigh
- Cake – @monate_ka_ganong
- rings- @veers_jewellery_designs
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