Tshegofatso and her husband met at an audition for the youth choir in 2016. They are both very traditional so instead of the western proposal, Tshego’s husband involved the elders from both families and proceeded with lobola negotiations. Enjoy this love story.
Did he pay lobola, if so can you tell us about the whole process?
Yes, Lobola was paid. After sending the letter to my father, a date was set for his delegation to come and meet my delegation. On the date that was set, they came over and had a tight negotiation session. An agreement was finally reached and Lobola was paid immediately without any delay.
How did you find the planning process?
Planning a wedding can be very stressful but we were fortunate to have an incredibly supportive family and friends, who took off a lot of pressure from us in crucial times.
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Marriage is such a big deal, at what point did you know you were ready.
I probably knew three years ago that I was ready. As a couple, we discussed that we would finally be embarking on this journey in 2018.
Tell us about your suppliers, how did you find them?. Would you say your suppliers delivered as promised?
We used people that we knew and grew up with. My stepmom made my dress for me, a friend of my Husband’s mom made him his shirt as well as the groomsmen. The Caterer was my sister’s friend in primary school, and the lady who put the decor together grew up in the same neighborhood as I did. It was all about supporting local businesses that are close to us.
Did you learn any lessons through your wedding journey? If so can you tell us of 3 lessons you’ve taken away based on your experience.
The first lesson would be that you’ll never have enough money to get married. So don’t hold off on it just because of that. If you are ready and have some savings, do it. The second lesson would be to be assertive about what you want in your wedding. Because close family is involved, they tend to want their ideas executed instead of yours. Be assertive and communicate. The third lesson is to enjoy the journey that leads to the wedding. Before you know if, the day comes and it passes, so take it all in and enjoy every moment!!!
What was the favourite part of the wedding?
The part where my parents honoured myself and my husband – my stepmom wrapped me in a blanket to symbolize that I am a woman now and not just a girl anymore. Then my dad puts a hat over my Husband’s head to symbolize him being a man.
What would you say to couples planning their wedding at the moment?
I would say take it all in and share the experience as a couple. This is the one moment most girls dream about and imagine, so definitely make the most of it and enjoy the journey leading up to it. What is meant to be will be, and what is not meant to be will pass.
Now that you are married, has life changed much? Do you both have the same friends or are you making new ones?
If so tell us a little about how you are adjusting… – for the most part life has been the same. We still have the same friends and we have gained some new ones through our union. The biggest adjustment was probably getting used to saying “My Husband”! I can finally say it now!
A big thank you to Tshgofatso and her husband for sharing their day with us. Congratulations on the wedding and for the blessing you are carrying. If you loved this wedding, you’ll adore this one here. Click here.