It’s such a blessing to find love in your teens and eventually get married to your high school sweetheart. I can only imagine the types of memories Sifiso and Ratanang will create going forward. Can you image the stories they’ll be able to tell their grandchildren in like 50years? Wow, now that’s awesome! ENJOY
1. How did he propose?
Answer: Wow wow!! Best night of my life. So Sifiso planned this whole evening in secret with my best friends. They had their own little committee. He got my friends to pick a restaurant that I like and my girls had to get me to the restaurant by staging a dinner in celebration for one our friends’ job promotion. Throughout the day I was not in the mood to go out but the girls kept me going in our group chat.
Sifiso gave me his card and I went to do my nails as a treat from him. I got ready and drove to the restaurant and had pre-drinks with the girls. Before I could order food, I felt a tap on my shoulder from behind and there he was, on one knee, blood red roses and a ring in hand, surrounded by the other friends I didn’t expect to be there. I can’t remember exactly what he said because I was so overwhelmed but I know I said yes and the rest was one big party.
2. Did he pay lobola, if so can you tell us about the whole process?
Answer: Yes he did . We had had various conversations about getting married and in July 2017, he met with his family and the letter was sent to my family stating his intention for my hand in marriage and requesting to meet for negotiations. The date was set for October 2017.
In between, we had various consultations with our families regarding what is expected, needed and so forth. What was most beautiful was that both our families took our feelings, wants and needs as the couple in mind and worked the negotiations around that. The morning of the 28th of October 2017 came and we were both nervous but all went so smoothly and laughter filled the house from both families. The last portion of the Magadi was concluded the morning of our wedding day on 30 March 2019 with the gift exchange ceremony.
3. How did you find the planning process?
Answer: In all honesty, it was both heavenly and hellfire. There were days where we were enjoying it and glowing in the excitement and planning, and there were days where we felt the walls of stress close in on us. People tend to speak only of the good and not the bad too. It was both, never easy but the moments of happiness were worth it. Without the strength, love and support of our family and friends, we wouldn’t have made it.
4. Was the community involved in helping with the wedding? If you please tell us more…
Answer: In a sense yes, it was more family assistance though, however, communities came in with accommodating us and our guest on the day like cars parking on their lawns, more importantly, their understanding while we had our celebration.
5. Marriage is such a big deal, at what point did you know you were ready?
Answer: Sifiso maintains that he always knew early on that he was ready, and indeed he led the marriage conversations early in our relationship. I think for both of us, we just knew in our hearts that we want to spend the rest of our lives together.
6. Tell us about your suppliers, how did you find them? Would you say your suppliers delivered as promised?
Answer: For day one, in Rustenburg, we were privileged that my mom and my older sister Lebo Thagane, took the lead in planning it, so they and my entire family, my grandmother, aunts and uncles and cousins, dealt with everything regarding suppliers. I just arrived for tastings, viewings, fittings and ultimate decision making. For day two in Kempton Park, the process was pretty similar. Sifiso’s mom, aunt and sisters, Karabo and Koketso Tema worked on all of the detail and did all the hard work and he was there for decision making. However, I think we can safely say, our suppliers delivered.
7. Did you learn any lessons through your wedding journey? If so can you tell us of 3 lessons you’ve taken away based on your experience…
• As much as you want everything to be perfect, that pressure you put on yourselves as a couple will destroy you and your relationship. Ease the pressure and remember why you are doing this together.
• Fit your dream wedding into your budget without killing yourself in debt, we avoided debt and tried to work with what we had. Family played a huge role in assisting us in the budget as well. Be very open as a couple about budgets and the allocation of that budget. (Bride, stick to that if you can’t add more money, I wouldn’t recommend getting into debt).
• Breath, sleep (a sleep-deprived bride is not cute), support each other, listen to each other, FORGIVE each other (because it gets deep) and most importantly, put each other first and love each other.
8. Would you do it again?
Answer: YES!!! Maybe we will have a vow renewal in the future probably much smaller though, hehehe!
9. What would you say to couples planning their wedding at the moment?
Answer: Live and love in the moment, even the good and bad because once the planning is done and the day is here, the day passes so fast. Remember there is a life to be lived after the big day, so keep being each other’s best friend because you have to go home together forever Enjoy every single moment guys, it’s the most beautiful weekend we have ever had to date and smile, there are so many people taking pictures at the same time so always wear your smile, it will be easy anyway because you will be so happy on the day.
o Venue 1: Kgatshe Family Home, Tlhabane, Rustenburg
o Venue 2: Tema Family Home, Kempton Park, Johannesburg
o Décor (Rustenburg): Laboda event hire
o Décor (Kempton Park): Tirhani and Ntwanano
o Beverages: M’hudi Wines
o Makeup: Makeup by Miss NCK and Shaped Cosmetics
o Dress: GeeMel BFG
o DJ’s: ATE Entertainment, Motie, Solo City
A big thank you to Ratanang and her husband Sifiso for sharing their day with us. We loved it!
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