Good morning everyone. It’s been a long time since I’ve featured a wedding. It’s been hectic here at Bontle Bride HQ. I’m currently working on issue3 and it’s coming along nicely. If you have not read issue 2, click here. Also, I’m working on something else that will be valuable to you on and after the wedding. I think sometimes we forget that there’s life after the wedding. A wedding day is a day to remember but it won’t be the only memorable day of your life.
Anyhow for today, I have this gorgeous Xhosa wedding to share with you. This gorgeous couple was kind enough to send their wedding whilst on a honeymoon. And I must say, I’m glad they did because it is just too beautiful.
How did you meet?
We met through my best friend who was his colleague. We were hooked up by her and her other male colleague.
How did he propose?
My sister in law asked me to plan my brother-in-law’s 30th birthday only to find out when I got to the venue that I had planned my surprise proposal.
Did he pay lobola, if so can you tell us about the whole process?
Yes, he did. His father wrote a letter on his behalf to my family. My family responded confirming the date of the first visit. I think they come three times in total and the last time they come they brought two live cows.
How did you find the planning process?
For me, it was easy because professional, I coordinate short courses for industry. I started planning the wedding last year, October. Everything went smoothly because I’m used to planning.
Was the community involved in helping with the wedding? If so you please tell us more…
The community was only involved in the traditional part of things e. gukwamkela kwabayeni and amabhaso (bridal shower). They helped with the cooking, slaughtering, traditional dancing and songs.
Marriage is such a big deal, at what point did you know you were ready?
I prayed and fasted years before we met so when it happened I knew it was what I had prayed for. God confirmed everything.
Tell us about your suppliers, how did you find them?. Would you say your suppliers delivered as promised?
The decor supplier is from Centurion and she has done a lot of eventsfor my friends so I knew that I would use her because of her beautiful work and work ethic. I googled photographers in Queenstown and East London and the one I used responded within 24hrs and he had a great package that included an engagement photo shoot, the electronic invitation and managing the rsvp, X3 photo albums. I was just blown by his package. The rest of the suppliers were referred by our photographer. We worked well together. I don’t have any complaints.
Did you learn any lessons through your wedding journey? If so can you tell us of 3 lessons you’ve taken away based on your experience…
1. In everything, put God first and He will guide and lead you to the right people.
2. Trust your institution.
3. Enjoy the journey and also give your elders a chance to contribute. It makes them know and feel that they are important.
Would you do it again?
Yes, but for other brides to be. For us, this is forever.
What would you say to couples planning their wedding at the moment?
Be each other’s support system, there will be too many voices and suggestions be a team.
Now that you are married how has life changed?
Nothing much because we lived together after we married under the customary law. We had marriage counseling and still continuing.
Where did you honeymoon? Please tell us a little more about the place, activities you did and what can couples expert by honeymooning at this location.
We are actually on our honeymoon in Zanzibar. Couples can expectbeautiful clear blue beaches and a lot of water activities and excursions from Some Town to the Rock Restaurant. If you go to Zanzibar makes sure you go to the Rock Restaurant it is breathtaking.
A huge thank you to Nocwaka and her husband for sharing their wedding on the blog. If you loved this wedding, then you’ll adore this one here.
Decor – Mumu’s Events
Stationery – Gloss paper design
All outfits – SNB 2 designs
Photography – Langoota Photography
Make up – MeyBee beauty
Venue – Roydon Reserve, Queenstown
MC – Khanyisa Bunu
Tradional dancers – Avela Qwalela