A Zulu And Tswana Wedding

Good morning my loves. How are you doing today? I hope your Monday is going well so far. Have you heard, issue 3 is out and it is gorgeous, if I may say so myself. Would you like to own one? Click here.

Ok, enough about the magazine. I have this stunning wedding to share. This couple met on a blind date, which was arranged by their boss and the rest, as they say, is history. Enjoy

How did he propose? 

We went on holiday to Bali in April earlier this year. He proposed at Lempunyang Temple which is one of the tourist attractions there. I wasn’t expecting the proposal at that moment but it was a beautiful sacred place within which to do the proposal.

Did he pay lobola, if so can you tell us about the whole process? Yes, he did! He wrote a letter to my family stating his intentions and asking for a date to have lobola negotiations. The lobola negotiations were held on 16 March 2019 and it went extremely well! My family asked for slightly more than I thought they would but my husband rolled with the punches without too much of a fuss. Both sets of uncles got on very well with each other and there was no drama thankfully. My husband paid the majority of the lobola which was asked for on that day, which allowed us to proceed with our traditional ceremonies.

How did you find the planning process? 

The Mabo was planned by my husband and his sister in law. He found it extremely stressful. The white wedding will be held in Cape Town next year and we have a wedding planner coordinating it so that one is not stressful at all.

Marriage is such a big deal, at what point did you know you were ready?

He told me within three months of dating that he was going to marry me. We both knew by then that we had met our life partners. The energy between us was good and solid, more than simple “honeymoon phase” excitement.

Tell us about your suppliers, how did you find them?. Would you say your suppliers delivered as promised?

 Our suppliers were Geli Delish Cakes for the cake, Makhosi for makeup, Ntsike Dlamini made my dresses and Nkanyiso Nqhome was our photographer. I am not too sure who did the food and the décor. Some were referrals through friends (photographer and cake) and others we found via Instagram. All certainly delivered as promised and we were happy with how everything went on the day.

Did you learn any lessons through your wedding journey? 

If so can you tell us of 3 lessons you’ve taken away based on your experience… 

1. The support of family is everything.

 2. Don’t let external issues that may be caused by the families on either side make you fight. 

3. It is your mother’s wedding and party too. Not just yours alone. Don’t fight against that fact too much and find ways of working together so you both ultimately achieve what you want.

What was the favourite part of the wedding? 

The singing and dancing by my extended family as we entered the gate!

What would you say to couples planning their wedding at the moment? 

It is a highly stressful process, find ways of detaching from it. Go on fun date nights. Also do not go into debt for a wedding, there is still a life to live after that one day.

Now that you are married, has life changed much? Do you both have the same friends or are you making new ones? If so tell us a little about how you are adjusting… 

I still have the same friends. I am lucky to have a friendship circle that is mixed with both single ladies and married ones.

A big thank you to Tebele and her husband for sharing their wedding on Bontl Bride. If you loved this wedding, you’ll adore this one here.

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Hi! I'm Ika. Thank you for visiting Bontle Bride, a gorgeous space where I share exquisite weddings with a flava of culture.

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