Hi Everyone! It’s been a while. I hope you are all doing well. A lot has been happening in the world and to say I’m exhausted is an understatement. If it’s not corona, it is the US elections. Hopefully, by the end of today, we will know who has won the tense race to the white house. I don’t particularly have a favourite. I hope whoever wins will govern with the spirit of unity. Enough said about that.
This wedding features in the 3rd issue of Bontle Bride. I hope you’ll like it just as much as I have. It is authentic, creative, and just colourfully beautiful.
We met in May 2016, through a mutual friend. Well, what happened was, shortly after my previous employer-Ambitiouz Entertainment, moved to a new office park in Waterfall, I bumped into a guy with a familiar face but quickly said sorry and rushed to the office thinking to myself that it can’t be him, it can’t be a coincidence. He later Whatsapp’d me say that he saw someone that looked just like me at his workplace and that we worked right opposite each other. What a coincidence. He later told me about his friend and colleague Lindo who recently wished me a happy birthday on Facebook and I ignored him. Lindo offered to take me out on a lunch date for my recent birthday and I kept refusing but finally decided to give in and that’s when I officially met Lindo for the first time and we’ve been inseparable since then.
HOW DID YOU BOTH FIND THE PLANNING PROCESS?
The planning process was hectic! Wow, everything happened in a short space of time. As dramatic as I am, our engagement party couldn’t be a simple braai with some drinks we went out to plan a garden party in our yard for approx 50 people but eventually catered for 100 because everyone wanted to be there. This was when my eyes opened to the real pains of event planning. Every mistake that happened at the engagement party I convinced myself that I’d fix for the wedding. Our caterer was 4 hours late and served horrible food and that’s when we made the decision that we would be planning our wedding from A-Z. We had umembeso(African ceremony) in March 2019 which was mostly planned and executed by my mother. She did an amazing job but the catch was that she set the bar high for our wedding. That meant more pressure on us during planning. We had to top the umembeso, it can’t possibly look better than the main wedding. The planning pressure increased. Both families played a big role in the final planning process as they help us research that would turn our dream wedding into a reality. The grooms family educated us on how to do things the Zulu way and my family was more than willing to learn to make it a success.
TELL US ABOUT YOUR SUPPLIERS, HOW DID YOU FIND THEM? WOULD YOU SAY YOUR SUPPLIERS DELIVERED AS PROMISED?
I found most of my suppliers through Instagram and Pinterest. As someone who’s always on social media and likes convenience, I spent time going through wedding inspo pages and contacting suppliers from there. Unfortunately, no one tells us about the service that comes with the glitz and glam you see online but I don’t want to mention names. However, I had to change my cake supplier a week before the wedding God bless Skumbuzo from BakersGallery who agreed to do our cake at last minute, still delivered on time and blew us away with the perfect cake design and the taste was out of this world. My make up artist ditched me on my wedding day at 5:30 am when she was supposed to arrive at 6 am. There was no way I could find a replacement at that time so my bridesmaid Zamore came to the rescue. The decor team did a clean splendid job and I applaud them for that. I’ve always been a fan of Bonang and her dresses so I knew from the get-go that Gert Johan Coetzee had to design our reception outfits and he blew me away! MaMduna is a highly respected woman in KZN who takes her craft very seriously. Everything myself and my bridesmaid wore were handmade by her and her services are still trusted and used by the chieftaincy of KZN as well as our former President.
DID YOU LEARN ANY LESSONS THROUGH YOUR WEDDING JOURNEY? IF SO CAN YOU TELL US OF 3 LESSONS YOU’VE TAKEN AWAY BASED ON YOUR EXPERIENCE…
I learned a lot of lessons! But I’ll highlight a few:
1. Get a wedding planner, the chances of you getting two anxiety attacks on your wedding day will be much slimmer
2. Cake tasting, decor mock-ups, and food tasting are NB! Do them even if you have to pay an arm and a leg but it’s better than being embarrassed on your wedding day.
3. Put in more effort in researching your suppliers, don’t believe everything you read or see on social media. Ask ordinary people about their services, it will save you disappointment and stress
4. Enjoy your wedding day and don’t let anyone ruin it for you. If something goes wrong, trust me your guests won’t notice until you tell them it’s wrong. Don’t try to change the unchangeable.
NOW THAT YOU ARE MARRIED HOW HAS LIFE CHANGED?
It changed in a good way. It feels great to have someone you can share every experience with. Nothing is about me alone anymore, it’s all about us. Every decision needs to benefit both of us and we allow ourselves to be ourselves. Since the day we met, we’ve seen each other every day so we have gotten used to doing things together. After marriage, we didn’t shift from this and we don’t allow society to dictate how our marriage should be.
MARRIAGE IS SUCH A BIG DEAL, AT WHAT POINT DID YOU KNOW YOU WERE READY.
I didn’t know I was ready until I prayed about it. I’m 23 years old, marriage wasn’t at top of mind but the connection myself and Lindo shared from the day we met changed my life. I knew it was time when I could feel that the love I got from him was enough, whatever I thought I needed to complete me didn’t even count anymore because I felt that he was enough.
WAS THE COMMUNITY INVOLVED IN HELPING WITH THE WEDDING? IF YOU PLEASE TELL US MORE…
Both communities offered their services before we could even ask and this was truly helpful. The unity that this wedding has brought has been amazing. A few worth mentioning would be Amabutho (regiments) that came forth and gladly took part of activities that happened esigcawini (open veld) and Mrs Ngubane know as MaMduna, may God bless her, not only dressed me and my bridesmaids in Unique Zulu attire but she also taught as ukusina(Zulu dance)despite the pressure she had preparing for umkhosi Womhlanga.
WHERE DID YOU HONEYMOON? PLEASE TELL US A LITTLE MORE ABOUT THE PLACE, ACTIVITIES YOU DID AND WHAT CAN COUPLES EXPERT BY HONEYMOONING AT THIS LOCATION.
My honeymoon is only coming up next week. I’m glad we made it a week after our wedding because judging from how tired we were? I don’t think we would’ve enjoyed anything if we immediately went on honeymoon. We needed that gap week to sleep all the stress and tiredness out. We will be going to Phuket and Krabi and will update you on the activities when we are back.
KGOMOTSO’S WEDDING TIP’s
Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Have a task team that will make the planning process easier Don’t fight among yourself because it will affect everyone else in the planning process. You are planning the best day of your lives, there will be ups and downs and delays Most importantly, tell your designers that your wedding is a week before the actual date, that way your dress will be ready a week before your big day.