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5 Tips For Writing Your Wedding Vows

Hey, my gorgeous readers! How’s your day so far. I hope it’s been fantastic. I’m currently working on the second issue of Bontle Bride Magazine and finding the whole process intriguing and challenging at the same time. I’m literally living on Nelson Mandela quote that says “it always seems impossible until it is done.” I’m adding exciting articles on issue two and making sure that it is better than issue one. For those of you who have been asking, issue 2 will be available later this year. However, if you haven’t already seen issue 1, you can still get a copy here.

It’s been a while since I’ve featured tips on weddings in general. Today I thought I’d share tips on how to write your wedding vows. Please bear in mind I’m no expert. It’s simply my job as a blogger to give information and tips that will make the planning process a little easier.

Writing your own vows is a special and romantic way of telling your partner why you want to get married and adds a uniquely personal element to your wedding. I remember when we got married we were so preoccupied with the other aspects of planning that we simply didn’t make time to write our own wedding vows; so we ended up going the traditional route (ironic I know since I’m writing a post on how to write your wedding vows but bear with me it gets better).

Our Pastor handed us the mic and said say something to each other. I remember I was a bag of nerves. Public speaking is something that we both didn’t feel comfortable with back then. The good thing was that the mic was off (phew!)and nobody could hear what we said to each other which was great because we are both quite shy. The vows were something like this, “Ika today I’m a blessed man, I cannot promise you the sky, moon, heaven, earth or everything in between but I can promise you that I will love you with all my heart, my lungs, mind, soul, spirit and everything within me. Today I make this declaration that you are my queen forever and it’s an honor to be called your husband.” He did well, didn’t he? I still feel butterflies every time I think about it.

Here are a few tips to think about when writing your vows:
Ask the Registrar, Pastor or Minister if writing your own vows is permitted, some churches will not allow you to write your own vows. They require that the statutory words must be used in order to make your marriage legally binding.

Write From The Heart
Write about how you feel. It is a good idea to find a quiet place somewhere, where you can relax and think about how your fiance makes you feel. If you don’t know where  to start these questions will give you a starting point:
When did you know you were in love?
How has your relationship helped you grow as a person? What are the things you love about your partner?
Do you have a favourite song?
When you think of your future as husband and wife, what does it look like in your head?

Be Yourself
It is so much easier to copy or say what someone else said but it is more meaningful if you say what you feel. It’s best to be yourself. Only make promises that you know you can keep. There is nothing more disappointing than unkept promises.

Keep It Short
Remember its vows, not a sermon, so keep it short and simple. I would suggest that you set a word count cap of about 150 words.

Last But Not Least: Practice
Sometimes excitement or nerves can make you say silly things or even something that you didn’t plan on saying, so practice, practice, and practice. If you feel that you might mess up because of nervous write your vows and read them out.

photo credits: photography by Obi

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photography by Obi



Advice, Brides, Traditional Weddings

Umembeso With The Bride In A Hand Painted Umgwalo Dress

Meet Bridget and her husband. Although they have been married legally for five years they decided to have a traditional wedding to seal their vows. Bridget wore a stunning traditional hand-painted dress. The hand painting is called Umgwalo in Ndebele Culture and we love it.   How They Met We first met at Church in …

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7 Tips To Shop For A White Wedding Dress

Wedding Dress South AfricaHello Gorgeous! I know I’ve been a bit quiet on the blog lately. I’m busy working on more inspiration which I’ll soon announce in 3 weeks or so. I’m still working on the finishing touches so watch this space and visit frequently. I have the mother of all announcements to make! So Super Excited!

If your on the hunt for a white wedding dress then don’t go shopping until you’ve read these tips:


1. Budget

Set a budget for your wedding dress and stick to it. When I got married I ended up spending twice as much as I intended to spend, so be careful.

The worst thing you can do is to try on dresses that are way out of your price range. It’s dangerous because it’ll make you consider loans and believe me that’s the last thing you want to do. Don’t start married life with debt.


2. Choose a Partner

Be careful about the number of people you take shopping with you. Too many suggestions will leave you confused. Make sure the people you choose to go with have your best interests at heart. I would suggest taking along your mom, sister or best friend.Wedding Dress South Africa

3. Take Your Time

Don’t be rushed into making a decision. Remember shopping for a wedding dress is not like shopping at Edgards, you can’t simply return it for a refund. If you think you’ve found the perfect wedding dress, you can take time to think about it before making up your mind.


4. Do Your Research

Search the web and magazines for wedding dresses that you like but remember that just because the dress looks fabulous on the model in the magazine doesn’t mean it will look nice on you. Knowing your body shape is the key to finding a dress that flatters your figure.Wedding Dress South Africa

5. Be Flexible

Allow yourself to explore alternative dresses, you might find the style that you think won’t suit you looks gorgeous on.


6. Hidden Costs

Remember alterations, veils and accessories are normally not included in the cost of the wedding dress. Don’t just take the first price they give you, all things are negotiable.Wedding Dress South AfricaWedding Dress South Africa


7. Consider Buying a Dress Online

You might think that I am crazy for suggesting that you purchase your wedding dress online and often times we read about all the horror stories brides-to-be have experienced but a family friend bought her wedding dress online (I have to admit though I was very nervous when her mom told me) but the dress turned out to be amazing. I have to stress that buying a wedding dress online is a risky business and it’s not for the faint hearted.

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