Good morning my loves! I have this gorgeous Ndebele -Xhosa wedding to share with you today. It is one of those weddings that will go down in Bontle Bride’s history as one of the favourites. ENJOY
The Love Story
We meet at work. It’s interesting actually. I travel a lot. When he joined the organization I was out of the office. I then heard from colleagues that there is this new guy that is a hit at the office, in fact, some called him “Hunk”. Upon my return to the office, I saw this Hunk guy and I must say he was indeed a “Hunk”. I continued with my life as usual, as I did not look at him with those eyes, after all, he was the most wanted.
Few months down the line he came to my office to ask for a rim of paper, that was the first time I spoke to him and the rest is history…..
It was over dinner with close friends at Montecasino. I kinda knew about it. I’m the most difficult person to surprise. I just didn’t know how he was going to do it. When he finally came with the ring on the plate of dessert I was blown away. He had me in tears right there.
His family sent a letter to my family to request a date, which both families agreed on. His delegation “Abonozakuzaku” then came to meet my family for negotiations. I must say that I was quite impressed with how smooth this process went considering that we are from different cultures.
We enjoyed every moment of it. We tried getting a wedding planner but that didn’t work out so we ended up planning the whole wedding ourselves.
I was overwhelmed with how our community assisted, it actually showed and proved to me how blessed one is. We had waiters and waitresses which were the younger stars from the community, they all volunteered and gave their time. A big thanks to the community of Emndeni for the love and support they have shown us, may our good Lord bless each and every one of them.
Marriage is such a big deal, at what point did you know you were ready?
Marriage has never been on my bucket list. I was in love with the idea of a wedding and not marriage. Honestly, I never saw myself being married; it was just not me until I met my husband. Being with him taught me so many things about love and unconditional love. Everything just felt right and I knew there and then that this is it. He is the One.
After the proposal, I started following a lot of wedding suppliers, such as designers, photographers, events and deco, cakes, etc. That helped us in knowing the trends and the do’s and don’ts.
Marquee and furniture:
I was referred to Dumisani Stimela of Iphupho Events by Pollen Tsotetsi of Pollen Creations for the marquee, draping, and furniture. They are based in Voslorus. They did an outstanding job.
Oh my my my…… now this was breathtaking. Our décor was done by GL Events. What I love about them is their level of creativity. I met Sinazo back in 2007 when I joined Group Five. We were both in the Internal Auditing field, I still don’t know how she ended up in the Auditing field as she was more in touch with her creative side. I gave her a call and told her “my friend I’m getting married and you are doing my décor and I know you will kill it”
We brainstormed over a few ideas on Ndebele décor. She did everything from invitation cards, stationery, and the décor. She created everything from scratch. I love unique things and our décor was just that unique, it was personalized to us. Seeing how everything came together was out of this world. Our décor was just the way I had imagined it to be and more.
GL Events did the things that makes the pots to be done on our décor. The level of commitment and professionalism is beyond. Our day would not have been such a success without them.
We met Milya from All about Photography at the wedding expo in Oakfield and we fell in love with her work. After searching and searching, she came out tops for us. Her love for photography and our love for photos was just a perfect fit. She did an amazing job with our pictures as well as the albums. We couldn’t choose which pictures to put in the albums since they are all beautiful, we, therefore, decided to let her do her magic on the albums. How she layered the albums left us breathless, they actually tell a story from the beginning to the end, looking at them just make us relive the day…..
We wanted to keep everything strictly traditional, from food to drinks. Catering was done by a dear friend of mine Portia Monareng “Friendship”. We didn’t do food tasting prior to the wedding as we trusted her cooking skills. She really did an outstanding job, people can’t stop talking about how tasty the food was even now.
My isiNdebele outfit was done by my aunt in Kwandele while hubby’s isiXhosa outfit was done by his aunt in Port Elizabeth. For our first attires, we went authentic in our tradition. Seeing the two cultures, isiNdebele, and isiXhosa blend into one was so fulfilling.
My modern Ndebele dress was done by Zodwa bridal. I love Zodwa bridal for their drama and uniqueness of their dresses. I still can’t get over how beautiful my dress was, Thixo….
Our cake was done by Pollen Tsotetsi of Pollen Creations. I gave a picture of the cake we wanted and a brief on how we want it. We have used Pollen before so we knew her work but we have never used her on something as big as a wedding cake. But for some reason, we trusted that she will exceed our expectations. We only got to see the cake at the reception when we entered the marquee and it was absolutely gorgeous and blended very well with the décor.
Thank you to all these suppliers for making our day extra special. They all delivered beyond our expectations.
3 Lessons Learned
Stick to your budget no matter what. I’m an excessive buyer and we went overboard with a lot of things.
Delegate certain things to your support structures and trust that they will deliver. Just let go of certain things.
Identify 2 or 3 people that will know everything about the whole planning of the wedding, from suppliers to the guest. How you want things done from A up to Z. In that way, you will be able to enjoy your day without being worried about what needs to be done and so forth.
Tips For Engaged Couples
Firstly, identify what is important, what you are not willing to compromise on then get the best on that.
Secondly, work with suppliers you can trust.
Thirdly, it’s one special day of your lives, enjoy every moment of planning it.
Lastly, keep a journal and document this journey, every little detail of it.