I have this beautiful Sotho wedding with the bride in green seshweshwe to share with you. This wedding is Bontle Bride through and through. The photography is top-notch and everything else looks stunning. Kelebogile, our bride, had so many things go wrong on her day but judging from the images you seriously can’t tell. Enjoy
How did you meet?
My husband and I met at Varsity, 7 years ago. We met through a mutual friend and we immediately clicked. From the first encounter, it took us a while before we could physically meet again. We were in constant communication. After our first official ‘’first date’’ we were both hooked. It’s as if we both knew that this was it. We got each other. And we’ve been together ever since.
A Beautiful Sotho Wedding With The Bride In Green Seshweshwe
How did he propose?
So within two weeks of our relationship, he asked me to marry him and I dismissed him and laughed and told him how I didn’t know him well enough to wed. We were students at the time and it didn’t make sense at all. Thereafter in 2017 he went back to those words and in the middle of the kitchen he went on his one knee, and he was like let us get married, marry me, and I could see the sincerity in which he said those words. At the time he didn’t even have a ring, he just held my hand and asked me and I said yes. I didn’t wear a ring until our actual wedding day.
Did he pay lobola, if so can you tell us about the whole process?
Four months after the proposal, he sent his older sister to deliver a letter to my family to inform them of his intentions. His elders and family representatives then came to pay lobola. Our lobola process was one of the longest because the first negotiations took place in December of 2017 and the last negotiations were held in March of 2019. The drag was because of disagreements between the two families. In the end, both families agreed to disagree because they could see that we could not endure the wait any longer. We tied the knot 8 months after the last negotiations.
How did you find the planning process?
Thato and I have always wanted to get married. We wanted to celebrate our love with the people closest to us and do it the right way. I am very particular and more financially savvy than my husband so I opted to handle the planning phase. I’ve always known weddings to be expensive but I did not expect them to be — as expensive. I was shocked as I started to shop around and get various quotes. However, we decided the best plan of action was to set up a small budget right off the bat. And try to stick to it. Not too small which meant it would probably be anything that didn’t feature a bespoke decor and a live band/acapella performance.
What was the favourite part of the wedding?
My favourite part is the part where the groom and his family come to the gate to fetch their makoti. The chanting, dancing, and singing are such an authentic traditional wedding experience, as I came towards the gate I couldn’t wait to see my husband. I wanted to see how he looked. I just wanted to see him, as we approached he wept. He couldn’t contain the tears they just kept on coming. I loved this.
There are various areas where we managed to drastically cut our spending.
Venue: While throwing a backyard wedding at a simple, middle-class home might seem crazy “un-classy” for lack of a better word, to a lot of people, we’re genuinely happy with our decision. (Bontle bride: It’s not, it is beautiful and worked for you. That is all that matters.) I have always wanted to have an authentic Basotho wedding and what better way to have that than where I grew up? We wanted to experience that rich royal Basotho wedding, with a lot of chanting, music and dancing and singing. And what better way to do that than in the community where I grew up. For the décor inside the marquee, I asked my mom Dimakatso Mokone to help me bring my vision to life. I showed her pictures and gave her a full description of what I had envisioned and she brought that to life with such ease and detail.
Entertainment: I asked my aunt Palesa Maseko to have an acapella performance because she has such an exceptional voice.
For music my cousin, Fana Ramushu and a friend of my husband were on the set, keeping us alive with Amapiano after all, we do love to boogie down.
Pieces of the puzzle fell into place on the big day and I realised that in the end Family/friends/community is more important than fancy frills.
A Beautiful Sotho Wedding With The Bride In Green Seshweshwe
Was the community involved in helping with the wedding? If you please tell us more
One of the strategies my fiancee and I used to lower our stress levels is to constantly remind each other that this is our day and we are going to enjoy it the best way we know-how. With the help of our community members /neighbours/relatives and my mom, we managed to cook food for the whole army. Family friends and neighbors were able to provide us with essential equipment so we did not spend huge sums of money on catering supplies. The marquee was situated in the middle of the street so everyone who knows us in the community can come and join in on the celebration.
Marriage is such a big deal, at what point did you know you were ready.
My husband and I decided to cohabit, so we were living together before we tied the knot. Throughout this journey, I realised just how much I valued him, how much of an all-rounder companion I had found and how well we worked together as a team on so many levels. I loved how much of a queen he made me feel and I just wanted to feel like that every day.
Tell us about your suppliers, how did you find them?. Would you say your suppliers delivered as promised?
Décor supplies I found from a woman in Vereeniging. I would not recommend her to anyone. She was 4 hours late with the décor supplies I had rented from her. She did not pitch at all for my Sunday mahlabiso ceremony.
The guy that supplied us with the marquee, what a humble soul he is. We found him through a cousin of mine. He arrived the day before to insert his marquee structure and early in the morning to roof up the marquee with a white stretch tent covering. I loved my make up artist and the work she did on all my bridesmaid’s faces and myself. Found her on Instagram .
Did you learn any lessons through your wedding journey? If so can you tell us of 3 lessons you’ve taken away based on your experience…
- Never pay people in full the day before, always insist they deliver the service and you will balance the remaining cash on delivery.
- When it comes to designers try to be as detailed as possible with your dress and how you want it to look, stick to a designer who has done something for someone you know or something for you before.
- Not everything will go as planned but always remember the importance of the day is to get married to your soul mate and celebrate with the ones you love.
What would you say to couples planning their wedding at the moment?
Relax. Have a budget, save up and stick to it. Do not go into debt over a wedding. You do not need an expensive wedding for it to be beautiful you just need to be creative. Involve people. Your family, your community your friends. Also, have a list of things you don’t want to compromise on in terms of money. Mine was my photography and my wedding attire the rest I could play around with in terms of budget
Now that you are married, has life changed much? Do you both have the same friends or are you making new ones? If so tell us a little about how you are adjusting…
Not much because we lived together before marriage. We still have the same friends, however, there are areas where there are minor improvements and changes into our relationship. We want to guard our union at all times so we have drawn the boundaries that work for us.
A big thank you to Lebogang and Thato for giving us a glimpse of their special day. If you loved this Sotho Wedding With The Bride In Green Seshweshwe, you’ll enjoy this one here.
Photographer: Thabang R Photography