When asked to describe her wedding in seven words our bride, Boitumelo said “The–beautiful–realisation–of–a–lifelong-dream” My heart melts every time I read that little sentence from this Tswana wedding. It’s one of those weddings I would gatecrash in a heartbeat, lol. I hope you enjoy it just as much as I did.
The Love Story
“We met in Varsity through a mutual friend. We then started chatting and my then boyfriend took me out for ice-cream. He had so much to say, I was like what a smart guy, definitely, a keeper. And like they say, the rest is history.”
The Proposal (Written By The Groom)
“Our birthdays are two days apart and I had planned to propose before both of our birthdays to make the weekend extra special. I had booked at Sun City a few weeks prior and had alerted the hotel staff about the proposal. I proposed over what she thought was an ordinary but intimate dinner. We had starters, main course followed by dessert which she was not keen for. The waiter brought her dessert nonetheless and she got the surprise of her life when an engagement ring was revealed instead of dessert. The staff went beyond the call of duty to ensure the plan unfolded like a fairytale. They accommodated my every request and the Hotel Manager was extremely attentive in ensuring our stay was a memorable one.”
A Stylish Tswana Wedding
“My mom knows a lady that hooked us up with the décor, we have someone who supplies my mom with flowers and the catering was done in house. My mom is quite a resourceful woman and knows resourceful people too. The décor supplier was absolutely considerate and listened to my every ask (sometimes demand). I love that she was honest and open to tell us that she couldn’t execute some of our requirements. My mom went to source the exact vases, runner etc to make sure I get what I want. Our supplier was accommodative of that as she could keep the staff post the wedding. This is a tip I can give to brides-to-be. If your supplier doesn’t have everything you require, go out and source them if you have time and just less it off the total cost. Thank me later”
One Thing They’d Change
“The day was meaningful, authentic and filled with love. Yes, there were a few oopsies on the day but I feel like if it was perfect then it wouldn’t be as real as it turned out. A lot of the stuff, we winged on the day, it was actually fun lol!”
“Both our families value culture so we decided to have a traditional wedding after the ‘magadi’ was finalised. The décor is more clean and simple than the traditional décor overkill. I don’t like the whole wood and brown décor. Our outfits were traditional attire as well. My first dress was an original Tswana ‘Khiba’ which is like an apron but its full dress. The second dress was a figure-hugging mermaid type of dress with the shweshwe traditional print.”
Favourite Moment Of The Day
“When I was escorted by my family and friends, who were singing at the top of their voices, with the purest joy and happiness and was handed over to my husband who was accompanied by his family”.
“My dress story is actually so weird. I reached out on Twitter to ask for any Pretoria-based designers and someone messaged me the designer’s contact number. I immediately called her to set up an appointment. We had a brief meeting and she totally got what I was looking for. She sent me a sketch of the dress and it was a dream! I was really happy with how it turned out, it was perfect. However, I didn’t shed a tear, I’m an OG like that lol.”
“We probably spent more on the décor than anything else. Saved a lot on the catering. We had a traditional menu ie ting, samp, pap, wild spinach, beef, lamb, hard body chicken etc… my mom, gran and their close friends helped. We didn’t have to outsource the catering.”
“Communicate with your partner effectively to ensure that both of your ideas are incorporated. As the day is not just about you but about the families and you don’t want to make them feel excluded.
Enjoy the day, don’t stress about the details and about stuff you cannot change at that given time. You won’t be given another opportunity to relive it.”
Married Life Excitement And Expectations
“Weekend cuddles, travelling and one day having a family of our own.”
Photographer: Ashman and Company Photography
Venue: Family home (Mabopane)
Suits/ Groom Traditional Shirt: Patrick from Melville
Décor/Venue Styling: Patty Motshabi
Flowers: Brides mom
Thank you Boitumelo for sharing your weding on the blog.
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