Hi everyone, I hope you are all well. I’m sorry I haven’t posted in such a long time. Quarantine happened and to be honest I needed a bit of a break.
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For today though, enjoy this gorgeous wedding.
The Love Story
We met through a mutual friend at an event in 2011. When the group conversation ended he asked for my number and called me immediately to make sure I did not give him a false number. However, we ended up chatting away like old friends throughout the event forgetting sisebumnandini.
It’s a funny story because he proposed twice. The first time was in Cape Town at table mountain. We asked a random guy to take a picture of us and hubby got on one knee and asked me to marry him. Now the funny part is, he did not have the ring but a letter (culturally acceptable way) in this beautiful glitter glass box. I laughed the whole time and said yes. The ring came after the lobola negotiations with our parent’s blessings.
No planning is without hiccups. However, I thoroughly enjoyed planning my wedding! I am naturally an organized person, so I had a spreadsheet, a file binder serious timelines, and pictures for everything. I had a budget that I mostly stuck to. I set out how much I was willing and able to pay for each thing and sourced suppliers in my price range. This helped me have a beautiful debt-free wedding. My sister and I are alike when it comes to planning so she would find me suppliers and follow up with me to check progress. I learnt a lot of people’s skills and effective communication in the process.
Tell us about your suppliers, how did you find them?. Would you say your suppliers delivered as promised?
I worked well with my suppliers. I prayed about it leading up to the day and they delivered. My makeup artist is from my home town. I found my photographer through a referral and he contacted me (Umusa Photography is the best, I would recommend them any day). The rest of the suppliers I found on Instagram.
Did you learn any lessons through your wedding journey? If so can you tell us of 3 lessons you’ve taken away based on your experience…
You do not need to get into debt to plan a beautiful wedding. Have a budget and stick to it. There are suppliers within your price range believe me (just make sure they are reliable).
Take every moment in and bask in it. Especially the wedding day. Try to be present and block out everything else, IT IS YOUR DAY TAKE IT ALL IN. The day goes by so fast. Do not compromise on the photographer, photos become the only visual illustration of your day.
Respect your elders especially if you are doing a traditional wedding. You need them and their blessing. Set boundaries but remember to be respectful.
Favourite part of the wedding?
The morning part when Umembeso took place. The atmosphere was electric, the singing and dancing were magical. My husband playing the drums and leading in the song was beautiful. We still talk about it with my sisters how amazing that morning was.
Now that you are married, has life changed much? Do you both have the same friends or are you making new ones? If so tell us a little about how you are adjusting…
Life has changed for the better. We lived in different provinces for all our dating years and moved in together after we got married. It is amazing waking up to the love of your life each day. It was also interesting trying to navigate living together with our different personalities but we embraced it and now we are flourishing. We have kept the friendships that we had before. We view them as our sisters and brothers, that’s the quality of our friendships.