Like most African couples, Nwabisa and Mzi had two weddings. The western wedding held at Gonubie Manor in Eastern Cape and the traditional Xhosa wedding held at the groom’s home. Although I’m a huge fan of white western weddings, it was their traditional Xhosa wedding that stole my heart and I know you’ll love it too. It was beautifully colourful, full of much dancing, singing and umqombothi(African beer).
Here are all the details of their wedding journey sent in by Nwabisa the bride.
The Proposal Story
Due to the nature of our relationship (long distance), the proposal was over the phone. However, it was only made official after the lobola negotiations concluded. When lobola negotiations were concluded, my family invited a local pastor to bless the engagement ring and the process leading to the wedding ceremony.
The Planning Process
The planning process was fairly manageable. Nwabisa did most of the planning and organizing for both wedding days. The fact that we didn’t have fixed ideas or never fantasised about our wedding day assisted us. Something simple as choosing the wedding colors, we went with our favorite colours at that point in time.
Our idea was to get an all-inclusive wedding venue. So, Gonubie Manor was the best choice, as it provided us with suppliers for everything we needed. This was very helpful as neither of us has attended many weddings or been part of the planning process before. We didn’t know what we needed or not, we had a few ideas of what would like. Suppliers were very timeous and did an amazing job at the end.
For the traditional Xhosa wedding, we found a local vendor from Ngcobo, who supplied everything for us, and helped us find a reliable caterer.
Hint Of Culture
We guess the white wedding was mainly the traditional western style, so there was not much of our own culture incorporated there. The next day at the groom’s home, I had to be presented in a white dress first. Then, we were welcomed by the elders of the family and changed into umbhaco, a Xhosa traditional wear. After the wedding reception, I presented gifts to my new family and was given a new name.
Our Wedding In 7 Words
God’s unmerited favour. Honor. Perfect. Joy. Dance.
Nwabisa-Walking down the aisle towards my groom with family and friends ululating and cheering.
Mzi – Officially making Nwabisa my wife.
Advice To Future Brides And Grooms
It’s your day, let it symbolize what you are about and enjoy it thoroughly. The night before the wedding, rest and stop planning and stressing. Everything will actually turn out perfect.
Photographer: Henry Dillion
Venue: Gonubie Manor
Dress: Sweet Occasions (Bride), Gelique (Bridesmaids)
Make-Up: Omphemetse Setshogwe
Suits: Harry Rosen (Groom), Euro suits (Groomsmen)
Décor/Venue Styling: Basics2Bling and Gonubie Manor
Flowers: Wimpie’s Flower Yard
Click here for another gorgeous traditional Xhosa wedding
A big thank you to Nwabisa and Mzi for sharing their wedding on PWB