I love it when couples plan their weddings their way. Vinny and Tshego did exactly that. They are among 10% of couples who couldn’t care less with impressing people. They did their wedding their way and loved every moment of it. They decided having a cake wasn’t important to them, so they left it out. And the best bit, they came in on budget.
How They Met
Vinny and I were introduced to each other by a friend in church. He had just performed a song and I asked the friend to tell him he did well, but the friend insisted that I have his number and tell him myself. So I did and that conversation led to so many more until he suggested that we date a few weeks later
Vinny had always made his intentions to marry me very clear. He did not do the on-one-knee proposal. On my birthday last year, we went to a jewellery store and he bought me an engagement ring. In that same month, his family met mine to start lobola negotiations and set a date for our wedding
A letter was sent to my family requesting a date; my Uncle granted it and end of March 2018, his family visited mine to start the process. This ended with a date for our wedding and a simple lunch at home with our nearest and dearest. End of March this year, his family came with gifts and a sheep and on the same day, we had our venue wedding as well as the reception at home.
The Planning Process
It was stressful! I thought simple weddings were easy to plan. Boy was I in for a surprise. There was also a lot of driving around and I was just exhausted by the time the wedding week arrived. My Mom was amazing though, as were my bridesmaids!
If you please tell us more… My family arrived in the week of the wedding and were very hands-on. A few neighbours did come through to help with cooking and peeling
Marriage is such a big deal, at what point did you know you were ready? I think Vinny and I knew from the early stages of our relationship that we would get married someday. And it became more clear when our son was born and we decided to raise our 3 children together (2 are mine from previous relationships). We could not see ourselves being with other people again. When he sent the letter to my family, it became more real
It was a personal decision to only use black-owned businesses for our wedding. It was mainly by word of mouth. The only supplier I will never use again is the tent guy. He made a complete mess of what we ordered and this was on Friday night (day before our wedding). It was only because of my cousin that he fixed the mess and delivered on the morning of the wedding. Otherwise, I was very happy with our supplier. My traditional dress was made by my Aunt, our bouquets were one by my Sister, photography by SeedInkPictures and make-up by Tshepiso Moqobane. Our DJ is a local guy named Kgahliso and he and his partner did a brilliant job. All chairs, tables were rented from Lorraine in Centurion and she delivered on time. Décor was done by the family. Amanzingwe Bush Lodge managed everything for our venue wedding celebration
3 Lessons Learned
First lesson: Accept help!
Second lesson: Get some rest when you need it. The planning takes its toll on everyone
Third lesson: It is possible to have a beautiful wedding on a low budget. We did it effortlessly
Would you do it again? I definitely would, sans the stress!
Advice To Couples Getting Married
Make sure you communicate with each other at all times. Draft a budget and try to stick to it (we had an Excel spreadsheet and managed to meet the budget in most cases). You will probably argue here and there, but it shouldn’t take away from the beauty of the journey that lies ahead.
A big thank you to Tshego and Vinny for reading the blog and sharing their wedding on Bontle Bride. If you’d love to save money on your wedding click here