I’m chuffed to share Vuyolwethu and Bantu’s Port Elizabeth Wedding. A gorgeous couple madly in love with a similar proposal story (or lack of) like Mr K and me. I think this is the first couple I’ve featured who has advised going to counselling. Every couple should do it (just my humble opinion). It’s well worth it. I remember learning so much when we went through our counselling sessions. Although our sessions were at church, it was so helpful hearing from older, wiser couples with so much experience. Learning from their experiences was the best thing we ever did. Okay, let me not go on about counselling. I know you don’t come here for that, so let’s see and hear how Vuyolwethu and Bantu planned their gorgeous Port Elizabeth wedding.
The Proposal Story
Hahaha! Laughing because I find this question funny. I get asked all the time. “so how did he propose?!” He didn’t REALLY propose. Just kind of got home one afternoon, from writing a 3Hour exam and got called into the room by my parents and they said a guy named Buntu wants to marry me. I wasn’t really shocked as we had discussed marriage. Just wasn’t aware that it would come so soon. After that letter, lobola negotiations proceeded.
The Planning Process
Stressful! Considering that we got engaged in December and B wanted to get married in April (He had a date and everything) Got a wedding planner to assist and my maid of honour was also God sent!
The Creatives/Vendors Selection
Well in terms of the white wedding, we had major assistance with the wedding venue coordinator who helped with pre-planning, décor and in-house catering. But in terms of other vendors such as photography, cake, bridesmaids dresses, etc everything went as planned and was not too stressful.
The traditional wedding had more vendors and suppliers and keeping up to date with them and making sure all was on track was quite a handful and my husband handled most of that with the help of his family. These were things such as the décor (Sinethemba Goba), the DJ (Dj Mzugo), traditional wedding cake, tent by Xesibe Tents, bride & groom’s beads by Nam Jewellery, traditional wedding attire by Sivu Sotha and lastly the ever amazing traditional wedding catering team headed by Buli Ngaphi which was informal yet so organized.
One I’d Change
I wouldn’t change anything at all. Both days were absolutely perfect.
Our wedding in 7 words
Memorable Part Of The Day
I don’t know if this counts as a memory but on both days I felt just B and I were present. I was (still am) happy, in love , in awe of everything. Buntu says the most memorable moment was when I read my wedding vows to him, he says they were beautiful, so sincere and he wishes he could place that moment in a bubble that would never pop.
The Wedding Style
Our style was normal modern traditional. White wedding main colours were lavender and grey. Our décor was very elegant and intimate with touches of small candles on all tables and fresh flowers.
I started looking for a dress in Feb. So you can imagine how stressed I was! I decided on hiring a dress figured it would be easier. I went to A LOT of bridal shops, fitted on A LOT of dresses. Then sometime in March, a month away from the wedding, I found the most perfect figure hugging dress ☺. I didn’t cry, my mum did, though. I was more relieved I found a dress!
We spent quite a lot on the photography for our white wedding. We saved in terms of catering for our traditional because we bought the food and allocated a task team within the family to cook and it turned out successfully, everyone at the traditional wedding ate sufficiently and loved the food. The traditional wedding had just over 300 people in attendance.
Advice to Future Brides and Grooms
On the day of the wedding, you two should just be celebrating your union not actually starting a life together. Go through counselling, read books about marriage, spend some time with older married couples. Have a blast on the actual day, drink, dance, personally, say hi to guests. And most importantly breathe, take in every single moment.
Photographer: Ronaldo Harding (Aftereffects Photography) & Simphiwe Nama (Simphiwe Nama Photography)
Venue: Running Waters, Port Elizabeth
Dress: Bridal Flair
Make-Up: Tarryn Harding MakeUp
Décor/Venue Styling: Running Waters, Port Elizabeth
Traditional Wedding Décor: Sinethemba Goba
DJ: DJ Mzugo
Traditional Wedding Tent & chairs: Xesibe Tents
Traditional Wedding Catering: Nombulelo Ngaphi & co.
Traditional Wedding Outfits: Sivu Sotha
Beadwork: Nam Jewellery
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